Passionate dedication to the pursuit of short-term goals
“I never really had one these big dreams. And so I advocate passionate dedication to the pursuit of short-term goals. Be micro-ambitious. Put your head down and work with pride on whatever is in front of you… you never know where you might end up. Just be aware that the next worthy pursuit will probably appear in your periphery. Which is why you should be careful of long-term dreams. If you focus too far in front of you, you won’t see the shiny thing out the corner of your eye.” - Tim Minchin
Being told that I am the only person able to make me happy was the only piece of advice that really struck a chord during my teens.
At first, the concept seemed intimidating. Having looked for happiness in friends, family and work, the idea of having to find this happiness myself was daunting. What do you mean I have to do it myself?!
But slowly, the idea starts to sink in. Then it starts to feel attainable, and eventually, it feels empowering. Step by step, or micro-ambition, makes it possible.
Tim Minchin authored the great quote at the top of the article. Making slightly different decisions every day instead of huge life changes will slowly lead you to a different place. Starting to look for happiness in yourself gradually is less likely to lead to the disappointment which a failed attempted at enormous change would instill.
The same applies to the way you dress. If you want to make a change, start small. If you want to start wearing more colour, start with a scarf and build it up. Be micro-ambitious. You don’t need to look like Joseph and his Technicolour Dreamcoat on day one. Aim for colour, and happiness, one day at a time. Then you might eventually catch sight of something shiny.